True Friends

So I’ve been requesting and receiving questions lately. This is yet another one. Please feel free to contribute…

Question:

Who is a true friend?

Before we can fully comprehend the meaning of true friendship; we must first discern who a friend is and if their is a clause in that definition that permits for fake- Something that is not true.

This in itself will imply that we have understood the meaning of truth; to be able to identify fake.

In defining these two terms- Friend and True; we’ll be able to accurately answer the question of who a true friend is.

Friend

“This is a person who you know well and who you like a lot, but who is usually not a member of your family”- Dictionary.cambridge.org

The Clause
This definition like any other talks about a one way relationship that should go both ways. Yes this definition applies to your friends to, but the questions is, do they consider you friends?- for then, and only then, will this definition be accurate.

A lot of people that we are friends with aren’t friends with us.
A friend is not just someone in whose life you are involved in, a friend is someone that is involved in you life- Double ST

True

Something that is in accordance with fact or reality. Accurate and genuine.

  • True Friendship therefore entails mutual understanding, agreement, respect, growth, etcetera.The key word there is mutual. We often think “people knowing us” is synonymous with “true friendship”, but no. Answering phone calls or replying text messages doesn’t make you a friend- it just means you respond to INITIATED CONVERSATIONS from someone that considers you a friend. Friends are initiators as well as people that respond to messages (In whatsoever form). Friendship has to be MUTUAL. It is however not a competition on who does more.
  • A true friend triggers the buttons that make you want to be a better person. A friend adds value to your life and vise versa. What this means is that, if there are people whom you call friends in your life and have successfully kept you stagnant or regressing, then they are not true friends and must be acknowledged as such. It is OK to know them, but not everyone needs to be your friend.
  • A true friend knows the advanced setting of your life and would never judge you but will always be ready to correct and support you in love.
  • True friendship is not jealous nor will it cause you to sin and vise versa.
  • A true friendship is a group of people of similar attractions and connections. A people that can coexist without altering their vision, mission and core values. A people that share ideas and want to see each other grow, and would allow each other grow.
  • A true friend is not someone you form a bond with so they can help you, but what kind of friendship would it be if they (or you) have the opportunity to help and withhold it.
  • True friendship is real, honest and loyal.

The list goes on and on and www.google.com might be able to provide you with much more information on the idea of true friendship. What I have done is set a platform for you to ask yourself if you are a true friend. It’s not enough to want genuine friends- Are you one? Do you listen? Do you make out time for friends? Once again, Are you a true friend?

God has Forgiven You

Recently I was asked two questions that I think resonates with a lot of people, and so, I want to share it with you guys- my amazing wordpress readers and subscribers. It’s on forgiveness. I hope it’s a blessing. Please feel free to ask any questions you might have.

Question 1

Does God forgive a consistent sinner that constantly ask for forgiveness?

This is a deep question. I often fall guilty myself, so I can understand the frustration that comes with it. I am excited by the honesty in this question because it shows someone who is finally ready to receive help. Help that has been freely given to us all.
In answering this, the number one and most important thing to note is that God is faithful. Faithful not because of who or what we do, but because of who He is. However, the Bible says in Romans 6:1, “shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?” Certainly Not. Truth is, in the context of the question above, It is easier said than done. Repeating the same thing over time becomes a habit and habits are not easily broken.

Can God forgive? I think this is a wrong question. God does not forgive, God has Forgiven already always and forever. This He did on the cross.

Hebrews 9:22 And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission (kjv).

As Christians, or in becoming Christians, we walk into this forgiveness. When we pray for forgiveness, we ask to walk into that which God has already done.

The reason why God does not want us to sin is because of what that does to us… The guilt, the shame, the lack of peace, the hurt… God does not like seeing his children broken, unsettled and unhappy.

Question 2

What can a Christian do to help such a person?

To help such a person, you have to be truthful, loving and realistic in your approach.

Romans 5:8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us (kjv).

Romans 5:9-10 Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.
For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life (kjv).

Bad (and good) habits are built up with consistency and these bad habits must be broken down with consistency.

I do not know the specifics of the sin we are all guilty of, but if we are to stop it, it’s not an on and off situation. It has to be consistent, intentional and genuine. Then replaced with something else that is positive. It is not enough to stop doing evil, you must start doing good.

Some Pointers for Whosoever is Guilty

  • Let the person accept truthfully that what he or she is doing is wrong and genuinely confess to God. Not because of guilt but because he or she loves God.
  • Ask God to come into his or her life or rededicate his or her life.
  • Find an accountability partner, someone he or she respects, someone that will not judge them, someone that is willing to listen to them patiently and can get achievable targets and punishments to keep them in check.
  • The person might need to change friends, or whatever the trigger is. Trigger is what causes you to sin, it could be your phone, movies, what you hear, where you stay, Etc.

For example, if as a youth leader, I am sexually attracted to one of my fellowship members (female), I should never visit her without another female around, or better yet, I should alway send a female representative any time there’s an information for her.

Saying nothing will happen is the reason why a lot of things are happening currently.We must find our triggers and destroy them as we allow God to gradually renew our minds.

  • Pray, Read God’s word, Surround yourself with positive and like-minded people.

These were my recommendations to the person that asked for her friend. Please feel free to add your contributions. God bless us all as we learn to forgive and receive forgiveness. Amen.

Oluwatosin Olabode aka Double ST.

Insights 

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I’m super excited to announce to you that you can now Pre-order my new book #Insights at your favorite online stores. Follow the link above. 

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Here’s a thought on #Insights;
‘It’s a book that will appeal to all who seek to view life from different angles while seeking for solutions in handling life’s challenges and turning them into opportunities’ 

                       Batet Musa.
Here’s the link…
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Let’s spread the word. Share and tag.

With regards, 

Tosin aka., Double ST

Stop Assuming

They say the problem begins when we start talking about each other instead of talking to each other. 

It’s more of a problem when we start talking for each other, instead of talking with each other.

Assumptions, however right, create one-side solutions to one-side situations.

Stop assuming and ask them.

Church Love

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DAY 9

Christianity is not a religion of hate and bitterness. It does not prey on the weak and ‘the so called sinners’.

Salvation cannot be gotten outside Jesus- The world has rejected Jesus and so cannot find salvation except in the Church- it is important to note that we are the church.

Any time we reject a ‘sinner’ from coming to church, we are saying they should go the world and be saved and then come back to Jesus- there is no biblical backing to this school of thought; for only Jesus is the way, the truth and the life. Jesus is salvation.

If a ‘sinner’ gets a platform to come to your church and stays long enough and there is still no conviction, then that church might be compromised.

When Jesus touches you, you can never remain the same. The church should never for fear or favour teach people what the ‘want to hear’ instead of what they ‘ought to hear’. By the way- who told you the church can’t grow a people whose ears are open to what the want to hear as what they ought to hear.

The church is a reflection of Jesus- Jesus is love; therefore the church is love.

God bless you as you walk in Love.

The Consequence

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DAY 8

Due to misplaced priorities and inadequate knowledge,  we compromise God’s standard.  We are not called to follow the path the world leads- we are called, in dominion, to light the world.

The fact that you were entertained does not mean you were blessed; you cannot be blessed and not be entertained. Thinking otherwise affirms the first paragraph; if not, then this quote is common sense.

God bless you.

The Saving Grace of God

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DAY 5

The Devil Needs God- As the image of God, he will be needing you too.

The devil needs God’s permission to make things work (the story of job, in one of the books of the bible- the book of Job; is a perfect illustration of this), and when he does not get it, he immediately switches to the image of God to help him make these things work.

The devil was created, so he cannot create, he can only attempt to manipulate created creatures. This is the root of our problems- the whole idea of creation (and all the created) is to do good; but because the devil has already turned evil, he also tries to turn other created beings into doing evil things (and he can when we allow him).

Here’s how it works; he makes music contrary to the glory of God (for instance), but people don’t buy, so he features the art of seduction- naked girls to pose as dancers– this captures even girls, let alone boys-need I say more…

A good percentage of people are no longer interested in pornography, which implies less sin against God; the devil is not happy with this, so he lets people create movies that do not carry the pornograpic theme and then puts in a little bit of ‘soft porn’, and a normal mind watches it with the mentally that it’s not a pornographic movie; it’s just a bit of  nakedness- it’s just brief sex- it’s just the 21st century lifestyle and culture- shown in the movie. We then say in our hearts, God would understand. The only reason the devil defeats you, is because he is able to deceive you.

But here’s the good new!
We can overcome the deceit of the devil if we consider the devil’s approach to be that of a businessman. Let’s imagine the devil as a businessman and we’re his prospective buyer, as a business man, he tells us all the ways things could go right with what he’s selling,he tries his best to make sure we buy his product because he does not want to lose (but he has already lost, however, he works on the premise that we do not know this), we call this temptation, but after all is said and done, it’s still our choice to decide whether to buy or not.

Since his temptation comes as a result of him assuming we do not know he has lost; the only way to overcome this, is to make him know we know! This is however only possible through the saving grace of God; therefore your decision to buy or not can only be solid if you accept and  know the Word- even Jesus used the Word (Matthew 4: 1-11)
Remember,
We overcome the devil by the blood of the Lamb, and by the words of our testimony (Revelation 12:11)
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you (James 4:7)

It is very important to note that judgement has been passed on the devil- not on us!

We are in the era of grace; let’s make use of this grace to the glory of God’s name. As Christians, we are not called to judge people; we are called to introduce them to this grace, so that they can stop falling for the gimmicks of the devil.

God bless you- don’t forget to share your thoughts on this and feel free to ask questions.