The Emotional Man Conference (30th March 2019)
A support system for men (10 am- 1;30 pm)
On the outlook, one will think that the major population of men are happy. Masked in their posture and learnt pretense; a larger population of men are unhappy, so much so that they have resulted in taking their own lives. For every one woman that dies from suicide, statistics shows that four men have taken their lives. This is just from depression and other mental health issues. There is conflicts and violence, accidents in various degrees, other illnesses and natural cases of death. We are losing our men in large numbers.
Society has taught men to hustle and be the caregivers for their families, but in doing that, nobody has told men to take care of themselves and very few are conscious enough to take care of them. Remember, people do not even know they need to be taken care of. There is a cliché men have come to accept… “You are a man, you’ll find a way.”
So many resources are spent on taking care of women who end up marrying men that were not necessarily taken care of. This is no man’s fault, nor can we blame culture; but society has dropped both consciously and subconsciously in the minds of men― a program that has resulted into who we are today.
Whoever told men not to show emotions forgot to tell them not to have emotions at all. Now, we have men dying from emotions that they’ve refused to show- Double ST
They call it weakness when a man tries to be normal. “Toughen up they say, don’t you know you’re a man?” If you appear vulnerable, the world will eat you up. So men (some) create a version of themselves that wasn’t supposed to exist so they can fit into a seemingly rootless society. They beat up their wives, sisters and mothers and get a high that calls them strong. On paper, society disapproves of this but our men are a reflection of the monster the same society has built them into.
So in various ways according to their upbringing and environmental factors, they respond to what it means to be dominant. Howbeit a created version. This is not to say men are bad in any case; it is however important to raise awareness of the struggles men go through.
Men are subconsciously taught from childhood that women are the weaker vessels, and so are the emotional beings. They go further to explain that that is one of the reasons they talk a lot and open up much more. Could this be the reason less of them are dying in comparison to men in the context of depression and other mental burdens?
Men do not have support groups and only in rare cases do men have ideal friends they can be accountable to. There are no platforms for men to open up and speak up as genuinely as they feel and if ever such platform exists, his learnt pride and ego wouldn’t even allow him.
We dare to ask men, Are You Happy? The responsibilities of life are ever increasing, the commitment to family is unending and desire to speak in those silent lost thoughts is gradually choking. So I ask again, are you Happy?
Welcome to The Emotional Man Conference, where we challenge status quo and redefine what it means to be a man.